How to Handle my Shame?

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Question: The weight of past actions, words spoken, thoughts, or non-actions can push me down and crush my inner light.

Guidance:

Lovely soul, the human experience is flawed. Humans are flawed and as you are currently in human form, these flaws will be present, always. There is no way to avoid them.

Please, know, the concept of flaw was deliberately introduced. From flaws arise tensions, from tensions arise energies and those energies are needed for shifting and transforming.

Change cannot come from stagnancy; lovely soul; it needs movement.

So maybe you could look at your ‘flaws’ from a different angle? Could you see them as a signpost for forward movement, progression, development, and opportunity for an up-grade? Could you use those energies in your favor?

Look at it this way: You do not scold a toddler for not being able to read, do you? Instead, you stay patient and calm and help them learn and practice.

This is exactly what you are doing. Practicing.

What if you accepted your ‘flaws’ by handling yourself with compassion?

Compassion for self, forgiveness for self, acceptance for self, love for self.

Of course, correct whatever needs to be mended once you realize. Apologize, ask for forgiveness, step out of the way - whatever it is. And then let it go.

Please, lovely soul, try not to cling to your experiences out of shame because you now know better.

You certainly know better now, you have grown so much! Isn’t that an opportunity to celebrate?

Can you ask yourself: did you try your best at the time of “perceived failure”?

Lovely soul, we bet you did! You did best with whatever means were available to you.

Can you see?

Was there the intention to hurt?

Or was your own inner pain crying out to you and you mistook it for someone else’s?

Dear one, at the core of it, there is always your own pain, trauma, and feeling of separation.

Let’s fill it with compassion to change and heal you - and the world.